In discussions with Brides and Grooms, they often tell me that their wedding day is more about their friends and family moreso than themselves (the Bride and Groom). As such, they may say they do not want to be in the spotlight, want to limit pictures they take alone, alleviate a first look opportunity, limit first dance time, etc. While I understand the selfless sentiments behind this, folks, I believe this is a mistake.

Your wedding day should be YOUR WEDDING DAY and the focus should be on you – the Bride and Groom. Everything and everyone else is ancillary.  Yes, we want children, Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, friends, and family in the pictures – of course, all of that. But in my mind, there is a priority order…

  1. Bride and Groom are first. Period.
  2. Wedding Party (Bridesmaids, Groomsmen, Flower Girls, Ring Bearers, etc.),
  3. Immediate family members,
  4. Extended family and close friends,
  5. Everyone and everything else.

Pamper yourselves on your wedding day! Be the focus of attention and let your Big Day be about YOU! You have the rest of your lives for everyone else. Just my thoughts on it…

Chuck Jackson is a wedding photographer for PhotoActive Photography in Tampa, FL. Check out to see stylized wedding images and samples from other photography genres, including events, portraits, and modeling, as well!